The Least Angry People in the World!

The above quote, from Boundariesby Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, revolutionized how I think about difficult conversations and setting boundaries. We’ve all experienced times when we need to protect ourselves from the consequences of another person’s behavior. We need to set a boundary. Too often, we simply endure relational disappointment until things get […]

OMG! I’m being OMG’d.

FOUR STEPS TO MANAGE YOUR OFGs In this world, we’re all regularly “blessed” when others offer us an opportunity for growth (OFG), which is a nice way of telling us, basically, how we need to improve. Whether this OFG feedback is true or untrue, if we’re smart, we’ll receive that OFG with an attitude of […]

If I am ever attacked by two trees at the same time…

I will be ready. The only way to create and maintain a “kind and courageous” team culture is to regularly nurture the trust among team members. The only way to ensure a foundation of trust within a team is to secure an environment that is safe. There are several ingredients required to secure emotional safety […]

What the Porcupine’s Dilemma Teaches Us About Balancing Our Relationships

A little parable attributed to German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) inadvertently showed me the two key ingredients to improving every relationship. Schopenhauer’s short parable, “The Porcupine’s Dilemma,” captures the reality that relationships are tricky. When I first read this clever little story, it marked me— and in many ways, it inspired the direction of my […]

The Most Courageous Question A Leader Can Ask

[vc_row type=”in_container” full_screen_row_position=”middle” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” bottom_padding=”60″ overlay_strength=”0.3″ shape_divider_position=”bottom” bg_image_animation=”none”][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ column_link_target=”_self” column_shadow=”none” column_border_radius=”none” width=”1/2″ tablet_width_inherit=”default” tablet_text_alignment=”default” phone_text_alignment=”default” column_border_width=”none” column_border_style=”solid” bg_image_animation=”none”][vc_column_text]The best leaders work tirelessly to reduce their blind spots—both in quantity and in severity.  Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen’s fantastic book, Thanks for the Feedback, offers one simple but challenging step to […]