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The Least Angry People in the World!

The above quote, from Boundariesby Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend, revolutionized how I think about difficult conversations and setting boundaries. We’ve all experienced times when we need to protect ourselves from the consequences of another person’s behavior. We need to set a boundary. Too often, we simply endure relational disappointment until things get so painful that, out of…
Scott Vaudrey
June 17, 2019
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OMG! I’m being OMG’d.

FOUR STEPS TO MANAGE YOUR OFGs In this world, we’re all regularly “blessed” when others offer us an opportunity for growth (OFG), which is a nice way of telling us, basically, how we need to improve. Whether this OFG feedback is true or untrue, if we’re smart, we’ll receive that OFG with an attitude of grace and gratitude. But we’re…
Scott Vaudrey
June 12, 2019
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What the Porcupine’s Dilemma Teaches Us About Balancing Our Relationships

A little parable attributed to German philosopher Arthur Schopenhauer (1788-1860) inadvertently showed me the two key ingredients to improving every relationship. Schopenhauer’s short parable, “The Porcupine’s Dilemma,” captures the reality that relationships are tricky. When I first read this clever little story, it marked me— and in many ways, it inspired the direction of my first book.  Here’s a paraphrase…
Scott Vaudrey
May 31, 2019
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The Most Courageous Question A Leader Can Ask

The best leaders work tirelessly to reduce their blind spots—both in quantity and in severity.  Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen’s fantastic book, Thanks for the Feedback, offers one simple but challenging step to effectively deal with blind spots. They suggest that our willingness to ask this most courageous question will expose our most pressing growth edges. “What’s one thing you see me…
Scott Vaudrey
May 23, 2019